At E&e, we believe beauty is a sacred order — a quiet, intelligent structure that brings us back to what’s true. Our work is rooted in the understanding that autonomy is not rebellion, but a return to seasonal living, to integrity, to inner alignment. When we live and create from that place, everything begins to flow with greater ease, clarity, and meaning.
We support individuals, spaces, and systems in coming into coherence with their essence. This happens through intentional interior design, energetic mentorship, and creative strategy. Offerings that are as grounded as they are visionary. Whether shaping a home, guiding a personal transformation, or refining a business, our work is led by what is essential. We see the unseen, sense what’s needed, and design solutions that restore harmony on every level.
Each experience with E&e is deeply personal. We hold space with care, precision, and discernment, honouring your privacy, your values, and your unique vision. The process is spacious, clear, and aligned. The results feel both refined and resonant — a natural expression of who you are and what you’re here to create.
E&e is where structure meets soul. A space to realign, refine, and remember. A place to return to yourself and live from the truth of who you are.
photo by Kelsey Macdougall
BECKY DE GRAAF
FOUNDER OF ETHOS & EDIT
Originally from a remote, rural area on the edge of Banff National Park, I was raised on an organic farm surrounded by nature, family, and community. My early life was shaped by the rhythm of land, season, and spirit. Rooted in a lineage that honoured Indigenous ways of living, I was immersed in a soul-centered lifestyle where meaning was found in relationship rather than performance.
Eager to carve my path, I entered the modern world and built a prominent career in interior design beginning in 2007. I served on boards, led complex residential and commercial projects, and brought a deeper narrative into every space I touched—one that asked not only what something looked like, but how it felt and why it mattered.
A traumatic car accident became the rupture that changed everything. It called me inward, into healing, remembering, and ultimately returning. In that season of transformation, I apprenticed under a shamanic healer who became my elder and guide. I went on to train as a Feng Shui Master, deepening my understanding of energy, space, and the unseen forces that shape our lives. Alongside this, I devoted myself to the study of the I Ching, becoming fluent in its ancient wisdom as a mirror for change and clarity.
I’ve since trained with many conscious masters, weaving ancestral insight with modern design intelligence. This synthesis lives at the heart of everything E&e offers today.
Now, I guide others toward their autonomy—toward the structure of their energy, the clarity of their expression, and their connection to space. My work is driven by deep curiosity and a devotion to living with integrity and beauty.
When I’m not working with clients, I’m most often in nature, sharing time with loved ones, or creating through movement. I continue to learn through culture, travel, and experience—all of which shape my perspective and inform the way I serve.
WHAT
THEY SAY
"Becky has an incredible way of articulating how people connect with their space and a deep understanding of what people need/desire. If you haven’t experienced an Autonomy Design session I strongly suggest investing in one, or multiples. This work and way of living is profound." - CC Autonomy Design Interior client Vancouver BC
"We worked with Becky on the design of our cabin, we wanted a place that would accommodate our friends, family and lifestyle. Friends recommended her as her approach is unique and holistic, and it is! We engaged her in all her offerings, and although we can’t explain or begin to understand .... the shifts in energy have been real. The build process has been so smooth and we truly believe it’s because we had Becky do a land acknowledgment, clear the abandoned buildings that were on the property and guide us every step of the way. Highly recommend working with Becky and the team at Ethos and Edit.” - KC Interior Design & Space clearing client Bowen Island BC
"Becky designed our Boat house and Sauna; we love it. She is such a kind and easy person to work with, her ability to care and execute every detail is impeccable, and it’s clear she knows what she is doing in construction - a language she speaks fluently. She has the ability to not only design in such precision, our project also came in on schedule and LESS than what we had anticipated. ” - Interior Design client Toronto, ON
"We worked with Becky on the design of our cabin, we wanted a place that would accommodate our friends, family and lifestyle. Friends recommended her as her approach is unique and holistic, and it is! We engaged her in all her offerings, and although we can’t explain or begin to understand .... the shifts in energy have been real. The build process has been so smooth and we truly believe it’s because we had Becky do a land acknowledgment, clear the abandoned buildings that were on the property and guide us every step of the way. Highly recommend working with Becky and the team at Ethos and Edit.” - KC Interior Design & Space clearing client Bowen Island BC
" Autonomy Design has completely changed my life in the most wonderful way.
Through doing sessions with Becky I am living in alignment with my gifts. It’s becoming easier and easier to see when I am out of balance and to trust what in balance feels like and the steps to take. Becky is also such a light! Her care and support in guiding me through this work is such a gift. If you haven’t done a session I highly recommend it.” - MM Autonomy Design client Topanga CA
"Autonomy Design has completely changed my relationship with myself. Each session with Becky I become more and more empowered and aware of the gifts on my chart and how they relate to my everyday life. It’s such a simple yet profound way of living and seeing the world. Highly recommend a session .... or 9 ” - KL Autonomy Design client Whistler BC
" I was introduced to Autonomy Design by a friend that I had observed make some pivotal changes in their life as well as become much more calm and grounded in our dynamic. It was such a beautiful thing to witness I had to ask what they were reading, doing etc.
In discovering my own chart and having a couple of sessions with Becky ‘I got it’ and that same friend saw the shift in me. It’s been so beautiful to grow as an individual and in my friendships. I highly recommend diving into Autonomy Design and investing in sessions with Becky.” - LP Autonomy Design client LA CA
"I was gifted an Autonomy Design session with Becky, and it honestly was the most thoughtful gift I’ve ever received. I highly suggest this for a loved one who is interested in self-development or going through a transition.
I had no idea what the session would involve or some of the modalities Becky has as reference, regardless the intimate details she shared about me, and how she was able to articulate things about me that I needed to hear was incredible. I have listened to the recording many times. She brought a clear awareness and guidance to topics I have struggled with about my relationship with my stuff. I’m so grateful! Once I am done with the workbook she provided I’ll be booking a session.” - AA Autonomy Design client Calgary BC
"I have had three sessions with Becky now, and each time I am stunned at how accurate she just knows what is unfolding in my life. Her voice notes are not only full of wisdom, but the timing is also divine. She has what I will call an unexplainable gift to deliver exactly what I need to hear in a way that is clear.
Her guidance on what I should do with my gifts and how to make shifts in my life and space are very tangible, when I do them I feel so empowered. I will continue to explore my entire Autonomy Design chart, and I highly recommend this work to anyone seeking a new way of living” - TC Autonomy Design client Whistler BC
"Autonomy Design is a fascinating mix of disciplines and wisdom that really resonated with me. It helped me to reinforce some of the knowledge that is already conscious while uncovering new ideas to ponder. Understanding my chart will help me build confidence to explore my own unique path. Becky is passionate about this work and brought meaningful insights to the session through storytelling. Knowing yourself is foundational to growth and wellbeing, and so, booking a session with Becky will always be time and money well spent." - BW Autonomy Design client Vancouver BC
"Becky has an innate gift for translating complex concepts into tangible takeaways. She has created a system that is both grounded and ethereal. It makes you look at yourself and your space in a new way! I’ve been listening to the recording of my Autonomy Design session just to make sure I catch every little detail!" - OB Autonomy Design client Calgary AB
"I'm currently in the autonomy design mentorship program. I have gained so much clarity about myself and have become more confident and certain about who I am, truly. I am learning what I desire (need) in my environments to really feel rested and secure. When I make the edits in my home, or at the office with awareness of my gifts that Becky has shared I genuinely feel the shift of balance, both physically in the space as well as in my awareness and energy. I'm really enjoying the process and recommended a session or the mentorship program." - CJ Autonomy Design client Vancouver BC
"I was feeling stuck in a few areas of life and not loving home life, I couldn't put my finger on what was missing, as nothing was really 'wrong'. I was recommended to have a session with Becky. I have now done two Autonomy Design sessions and both have been wildly impactful. Becky's way of knowing exactly what is going on, and how to shift it is incredibly accurate and profound. She articulated how I experience life and what steps to take to step into my expression in a deeply personal way. Her delivery is direct and kind and I really appreciate her attention to detail and support. I'll continue to work with her and recommend a session to anyone feeling stuck, off or in limbo." - BW Autonomy Design client Vancouver BC
"Wow - I had an autonomy session with Becky and am shocked at how 'seen' I was. She has a true gift at speaking and engaging with you at a soulful level. It was also very energizing to be engaged with a woman who is clearly autonomous herself.
The gifts and energy centres that she covered in my chart during our session were all very affirming and very relevant to my current life. I walked away from the session empowered, curious and refreshed. I will be booking again and am eager to learn and embody the balanced state of all my gifts. Thank you for your passion and for sharing this with the world." - BB Autonomy Design client New York City
"I have been investing in talk therapy for years, as much as I enjoy my therapist and we have made changes - In the session with Becky she was able to explain things about me that I have never been able to put words around in all my therapy appointments. The clarity she brought me about my gifts, their balance, and how they manifest in my life and surroundings was wildly accurate. In just one session I feel liberated, I'll be booking again for sure. She has a gift! Thank you for sharing autonomy design with the world." - BD Autonomy Design client Edmonton AB
"We had Becky read our family's Autonomy Design charts. (Married household/ two working parents and three kids under the age of 10) It has completely changed how my husband and I communicate with our kids at home, it has changed how we show up for them. The charts and the sessions with Becky have given us an awareness of how each of our kids feels at home that we would have never known. The energetic insights into each of our gifts have been a game changer. It has equipped us to parent better together and communicate with ease." - AS Autonomy Design client Calgary AB
"I wasn't sure what to expect going into my session with Becky. The reading was so profound! She spoke to my way of experiencing the world in the most articulate way, I've never felt so understood and empowered to express myself. I left the session feeling resourced and look forward to booking again to learn more about my other gifts. Becky, thank you for sharing this with the world, you are the real deal.
I highly recommend an Autonomy Design session" - RR Autonomy Design client Nelson BC
"We worked with Becky on the design of our cabin, and couldn't have done it without her - her expertise is a true gift. Her knowledge not only about design but also about 'off-grid' living is vast and her contemporary approach is refreshing. She was able to support us every step of the way and engage with the build team genuinely. We also appreciated her conscious and appropriate approach to working with the land" - Amber L. Interior Design & Autonomy Design client Vancouver BC
"We worked with Becky on the design of our cabin, and couldn't have done it without her - her expertise is a true gift. Her knowledge not only about design but also about 'off-grid' living is vast and her contemporary approach is refreshing. She was able to support us every step of the way and engage with the build team genuinely. We also appreciated her conscious and appropriate approach to working with the land" - R&R, Land Acknowledgment & Interior Design Client in the Gulf Islands BC
"I wasn't sure what to expect going into my session with Becky. The reading was so profound! She spoke to my way of experiencing the world in the most articulate way, I've never felt so understood and empowered to express myself. I left the session feeling resourced and look forward to booking again to learn more about my other gifts. Becky, thank you for sharing this with the world, you are the real deal.
I highly recommend an Autonomy Design session. " - LL Autonomy Design Client in Victoria BC
“Becky is the real deal. Via our initial space clearing, she was able to energetically unearth past and present karmic densities that were stuck inside of our new apartment. She was intentional and patient, working the majority of the afternoon to ensure our home space was in harmonious energetic balance. She later proceeded with an Intention Clearing that allowed my partner and I to relinquish rigid stress we were holding on to and surrender to the joy and celebration of moving into our new home.” - Karla Dreyer, Autonomy Design Client in Vancouver BC
“Becky is the real deal. Via our initial space clearing, she was able to energetically unearth past and present karmic densities that were stuck inside of our new apartment. She was intentional and patient, working the majority of the afternoon to ensure our home space was in harmonious energetic balance. She later proceeded with an Intention Clearing that allowed my partner and I to relinquish rigid stress we were holding on to and surrender to the joy and celebration of moving into our new home.” - Kara Ladd, Space Clearing Client in New York City
“My experience with Autonomy Design was both familiar and unfamiliar at once. Becky shon light on truths about my space and my way of living in it that made immediate and perfect sense to me, even though I had never identified them before. I now know how to harness my energies via the objects and spaces around me. Since AD, I feel more in control, more aware of my own needs in my space, more creative and more productive. I wish I had done this years ago. Autonomy Design didn't just change my space, it changed my perception of myself. When it comes to seeing someone—really seeing them—Becky has a gift. It's a pleasure to talk through strategies for better, healthier living that I'm confident will stick with me from now on.”
M.S., Autonomy Design Client in Calgary Alberta
Becky’s talent as a designer was demonstrated throughout the project and we relied heavily on her expertise — both interior design, Feng Shui and Autonomy Design . She was able to read our minds and make suggestions without coming across as “I am the designer and I know best”. We never felt that she was imposing a design concept on us that was not our intent. She understood our budget restraints and always suggested solutions that were in line with the budget.
During the construction process, her background in the industry was invaluable. She could talk the language with the trades and was not intimidated by any of them. We felt that she was actually our project manager on the job as she caught many details that needed adjustment, before it was too late.
We could not be happier with the outcome of our project, there really is not one thing we would change. Becky has become a family friend through the process and we highly recommend her!”
D&J., Interior Design Client in Calgary, Alberta
“During the design and renovation of our bathroom, Becky was our steady anchor. My husband and I had the barest of ideas of what we wanted our space to be; Becky masterfully guided us from general concept to dream realized. Only someone as experienced and talented as she is could have included such perfect details in our bathroom as the colour of the wood and the cut of the tile. Becky’s design work is so clean, so modern, so tailored to her clients. In addition to her strength as a designer, Becky is well-versed in the practicality of construction. She was responsive and responsible throughout construction and brought such a calming presence to that chaotic phase. No one works harder than Becky and it is all for the benefit of her clients.”
M.B. , Interior Design Client in Calgary Alberta
“Having Becky clear our space before and after our recent move was a gift. There was a noticeable change in the tone of the environment and helped us reset. Where as before the house felt stale and stagnant, it was cleared to feel like the perfect welcome home.”
- CJ, Space Clearing Client in Calgary Alberta
“In contrast to other designers I have worked with, Becky has a very edited eye, and there is something that feels very fresh and modern with a European sensibility. But with a more eclectic slant that creates a different type of balance and harmony.”
- M.K., Interior Design Client in Vancouver, BC
“I worked with Becky at Banbury Lane for over five years. We had a lot of fun, but we worked hard, too. Becky’s primary consideration was always client education and satisfaction. She was conscious about client needs and educated them whenever possible. Now that I get to assist Becky’s design business with hardware needs, I see the dedication and soul that she puts into every client's project. It is always a pleasure to work with Becky. “
M.S., Interior Design Colleague in Calgary AB
“We were so happy with Becky's work, her expertise, ideas and creativity were top notch. The products and ideas weren't anything I could have ever come up with on my own and were very original. We would recommend Becky/ Ethos and Edit Studio to anyone who is doing a project large or small, whether they have design expertise or were completely new to it like we were. We were supported and encouraged and couldn't have dreamed of a more beautiful space.”
B&K W., Interior Design Clients in Calgary AB
“Becky’s energy, heart, passion + eye for design is uniquely electric. Her ALL-in, personal, positive + present approach to her work is a refreshing + inspiring relationship to collaborate within + having her involvement in some of our projects was a huge asset. Becky communicates, curates + nurtures an experience in all of the relationships she is a part of + everyone she connects with benefits from her generosity of spirit + uninhibited creativity.”
JM, Interior Designer in Calgary AB